Keeping your relationship fun, exciting and spontaneous doesn’t have to be difficult. Sometimes we just forget the simple things we can do to show her we care. Here are my top 5 picks on keeping a good relationship.
1) Buy her flowers or gifts sporadically, just because.
My girlfriend loves when I surprise her with flowers, edible arrangements or something similar. She loves receiving them at work, especially when she has no idea its coming and when it’s for no reason at all.
She is lucky enough to have a job where she can actually receive these gifts, but if your significant other cannot, try to plan them to arrive on her days off. If you are looking to save a few dollars, bringing them home with you to give to her can really make her happy.
2) Cook her something special
If you don’t normally cook, or your definition of cooking is heating up ramen, you may need to do a little research and prep for this one. Cooking can be an easy way to surprise her and show her you care. Think about what her favorite foods are, think about the type of food she normally orders when you go out to eat and find a recipe online.
Recipes are so easy to find now, and most of the time they have ratings and feedback from those who have tried making it. Find a recipe that you can follow and doesn’t require any guessing or sprucing up yourself. If you rarely cook, find recipes that don’t require a ton of ingredients and keep it simple.
You would be surprised on how easy this could be and will normally impress her.
3) Plan a weekend getaway with her
This requires some planning, but can be a great way to make both of you extremely happy. Start saving some money each month and plan a weekend getaway. You don’t have to go far, and I would recommend somewhere close and within driving distance.
I live right outside San Francisco, but we love saving and planning a trip to stay in the city during the weekend. A small getaway weekend doesn’t have to cost a lot, but can be something that both of you need to relax and unwind.
Our trips to San Francisco usually cost lest then a few hundred dollars, and we get to splurge on some good food, shopping and spending time together not thinking about work.
4) Support her hobby or passion
This may seem like an obvious one, but a lot of people seem to forget that a little support can go a long way. Her hobby or passion may not be something that interests you, but find a way to get involved every now and then. You may be surprised how much fun you can have with her, and not specifically about the activity you are doing.
If it’s something that you can’t get involved with, find another way to support her. If you are not sure what you can do, leave your questions in the comments and I will do my best to give you some ideas. You can always email me directly: Nick@SeparateOpinion.com
5) Plan a couple date nights a month
This is another step that takes some planning on both sides. I’m not a fan on surprise date nights due to schedules, work and a bunch of other factors. However I do feel planning a couple date nights a month can really improve a relationship, especially for those who have been together awhile.
Find some time and let her know that you want to take her out. If you want to surprise her with the actual activity (dinner, movies etc), find out the best time for what you want to do and ask her to when a good time will work for her.
This will help leave a surprise element to the date night, but also make sure she doesn’t already have plans or won’t be too exhausted after work.
Another great way is having each other take turns planning the date nights. If you do two major date nights a month and alternate deciding what the date night entails, this could make the actual planning process and date that much more exciting.
What are your thoughts? What do you do to keep things alive? What do you wish he could do that would make your relationship a little better? Leave your comments below and let me know!